
I’m no expert at goal setting, just a person who wants to share what I’ve learned – how I’ve fallen and gotten back up, again and again and, well, again. I often call myself an ‘expert failure’ because there are so many things I have set out to do, only to find out I failed to plan and evaluate my goals properly, to count the cost and figure out the missing parts I needed to get there. My hope is that by sharing this, I can help you too find a way, when there seems no way, to meet the goals in your life.
Define & decide your intentional purpose ~ For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose Ecc 3:1
I believe that in every season there is a reason we are in it. There’s something to learn, something to do, and something that we must accomplish within the time we are given. Take a moment to think where you are, what you are doing right now and how you got there. What motivates YOU to move forwarding what you are doing with your life. Take the time to sit down with those close to you, within your ‘inner circle’ of close friends, mentors, confidantes, God, etc and ask them how they ‘see you’. Write out your natural talents, hobbies, gifts and what you are working towards right now. Document what you want to do, define WHY you want to do it, and figure out how that fits into the purpose you are going after.
Finding the purpose is sometimes like putting together a jigsaw puzzle with missing or non existing pieces, that are needed, but you just don’t have them yet. Don’t fret, just work with what you already have, as you learn and grow DOCUMENT your progress, things will start coming up. Natural gifts will be highlighted and you’ll find the missing pieces. For now work with what you’ve got. And don’t forget to document, the human mind is quick to forget. Don’t lose those precious pieces and parts that will help you see what your purpose is.
By finding your purpose the goals for your life will flow out easily, you’ll find focus for what it is that you are supposed to do with your time, talent and gifts.
Write out & organize ~ What does success look like to you?
Write out your goals. Seems obvious right? But you’d be surprised at just how powerful it is to write your goals out and put it on paper, there’s something magical and permanent about it. Really take time to dig deep and figure out what you want to achieve by the end of this year in your life. Go hog wild and set your mind free to dream big! Don’t listen to the nagging pessimist in your head, ; hog tie him/her and toss ‘em into the basement so that you won’t be dragged down by those unproductive/negative thoughts. Just keep writing and dreaming.
Have a clear picture of what success looks like to you, be as vivid and descriptive as possible so that there is no mistaking it what it will look like when you meet your goal. And if you are a Christian pray and ask God what He might have for you to do with your year; ask Him to give you a vision for your year. Don’t think about the ‘how to do it’ instead focus on what you want to do. The ‘how to’ stuff will come later. Just keep writing and dreaming.
Now organize these goals into parts of your life that are important to you. For me that would be Family, Health/Fitness, Spiritual growth, and Business/ Education. Grab a spiral bound notebook with tabs, divide each tab into categories of your life that you have goals for. Now prioritize them on the level of importance A, B, C. etc. and include sub-categories if they are related like A1, A2, B1, B2. On the first page of the notebook write out the category and write out the master list goals for each category. Once you have organized your goals according to priority, it’s time for the next step:.
Research, Review, Evaluate
As a person who has worked in the software development industry for 7+ yrs before retiring I can tell you flow chart planning and research was my favorite part of planning and writing software. We gathered the requirements (stuff you need to get your goal done), defined the problem we were trying to solve, outlined possible solutions, planned for known issues, problems, mistakes and hypothesized about potential mistakes we knew would most likely happen, based on previous experience. After that we evaluated our current resources we had on hand, made a list of what we needed learn, and bought additional help or products we needed to buy to create a successful end product. Along the way we tested it so we could make the change, if necessary. I am using this same dynamic process with goal setting. Because we know that success in life is built on successful patterns, the key then becomes finding out what those patterns are and how to add them to our lives.
Research ~ count the cost, define your mini/intermediate goals, and celebrate your mini success to spur you on to reach your big goals
This time of research will give you a clearer picture of what it takes to complete the task or goal you are going after. This is the time to “pick apart”, break down and or disassemble the goal into manageable ‘chunks’ mini goals or milestones. Use these mini successes or completed milestones as a way to ‘track’ or evaluate how you are doing to meet your end goal. These ‘little successes’ often lead to BIG success as they compound and can spur us to completion of the goal or task you are after. Take a moment ok a day to celebrate it in a way that works for you and does not sabotage the goal you are going after. These victories or set backs will serve as a kind of guidance or ‘map’, to see where you are on your path to success. By taking notes and asking an experienced person who has done what you are doing you may be able to avoid or reduce some of the common pitfalls that come along the way. This is of course no guarantee that you will have ALL of your possible problems solved with solutions in hand. Sadly life is not like a software program, that you can give directions to and it executes exactly as you command it; life is fluid and dynamic adventure with unforeseen changes, challenges and opportunities. And with these new and dynamic changes we must be able to be flexible with our goals and dreams in order to get there and achieve them, so be ready to shake things up, re-evaluate and change the direction of your goals in the middle of reaching them if you have to.
Review ~ plan for failure, so instead of recovering and hiding, you’ll be thriving
Once you have research in hand review your findings with what you already known. Make a list of strengths, weaknesses, areas of growth and parts that are completely out of your scope to help you meet your goal. Now brainstorm and make another list on how you are going to resolve the areas of weakness and growth. And figure out how to deal with issues that may come up that are out of your scope, make a plan, a concrete way to resolve it. None of us can be experts at everything, create a team of experts who will help you achieve your goal while you are in the planning stage, so that you can be prepared for when you fail or when things go off track. That way there is a PLAN in place. And when life’s hiccup’s come up (because they always do), you have a written plan, a road map to stay on track. You’ll know who to call, when you fail in an area of weakness, or lack of knowledge or expertise, because you made of list of people or resources beforehand that you can turn to WHEN it happens, failure is a fact of life; it happens. Instead of scrambling to recover, hiding out in panic mode you will just go down your resource list to get help and figure out what to do next, to get back on the road to success faster, with less stress. Failure is not a character trait, it is an opportunity to learn, grow, revise and reroute your plan, don’t take it personally, just learn the lesson and move forward.
Evaluate
Now that you have your list together pick the top 2 or 4 goals from each area in your life and sit down with someone who knows you well (a mentor, advisor, close friend, mastermind group, God etc) with whom you can share your dreams and goals with. Go with an open and willing heart because sometimes people in our lives can see our blind spots and strengths better then we can. Take the feedback that you get from them and run with it. Sometimes you might hear no not yet.. I too hate it when that happens, but things in life often happen for a reason, during a certain season of our lives which we are being prepared for something big, but we are just not there yet. Does this mean that you let someone squash your dream? No but ask them why not yet? Document the areas of weakness that this person sees that could be a stumbling block to you meeting your goal. Then evaluate research and review the stumbling block and decide if it’s worth going ahead and doing it or waiting it out to work on the areas that you need to grow in to get there.
On Monday we’ll cover the last part of goal setting which is Commitment, Time tracking, accountability, vision and a real life example on how I walked this out with one of my own goals this year. Enjoy I can’t wait to hear your feedback!